Hello Kym,
I will not add to what other members of this forum have contributed but perhaps would wish to comment on the issues of "coping" and "support" when diagnosed with a condition like CML.A while back I mentioned to my specialist that I belonged to this forum and how useful it had been to myself and he was interested;he said that mutual support following a diagnosis is vital and that still for many being told one has CML is a life changing event.
Prior to 2002 or perhaps a little earlier CML was a fatal disease and it was only with the introduction of TKIs did it for many become a manageable condition with no real impact on ones projected lifespan.Glivec was called the golden drug or the new magic bullet for cancer therapy.
Eleven years ago on diagnosis I was not aware of TKIs and I thought that I would only live for a short period and I prepared myself for it but I was surprised ,very surprised at the impact that medical research and drug development had on the possibilities for survival.
Upon diagnosis with many serious illnesses it is not uncommon for there to be"denial "being shown by either the patient or in some instances the partner or the family or friends.I had support from my employer who offered unlimited sessions of psychotherapy and after two major and long discussion sessions that was enough to be then able to cope;family and friends did not understand my condition nor did my GPs and they all talked of how long I would last and what support and nursing services I might need.However that was not the case and I coped and dealt with it in a capable manner.However in the first 3 months of treatment I do did not respond well and the specialist said that "there might be cause for concern".;eventually this concern declined.
I have a suggestion that you attempt to engage with some of the medical professionals who are there and capable to offer support and help and advice to your partner and to talk it through and to rationalise both of your concerns ;as has already been said for CML the treatments are there and available, unlike for some other blood cancers or for some cancers in general.
There is a whole area of work in medicine and for CMl in particular that I put under the heading of support and help/coping that would match the current situation you face and the denial that is being shown-worth a new thread sometime perhaps.
With best wishes
John